It’s not hard to figure out that sex is a definitive part of the male/female relationship. Men want it and women know how to use it to get what they want, at least most of the time. But, if not utilized carefully sex can take things away from women and that’s when they blame men the most. Come on chick, you just gave him alllll your junk and you’re expecting him to stick around? For what? Are you going to shoot fireworks out of your ass or squirt beer through your boobs next time? Even if that happened it still wouldn’t matter because he got what he wanted and now he just thinks you’re easy. He may bring you around his friends just for the sheer entertainment of your new found party tricks, but that’s it. So, for all of you clueless women out there that are constantly blaming men for all of your nights spent alone finishing another bottle of wine, read this and learn from it.
It’s really not that hard to understand…
If you want to have sex with a guy the first night you meet you better believe he’s going think you do this all the time and peg you as someone like that. This even applies to making out on certain occasions.
That is the rule. Are there exceptions, yes, but that is the rule.
So if you want to sleep around then have no attachments and no expectations besides an orgasm (and even that can be too much).
But, if you want to find someone who will like you and respect you, don’t sleep with him for a while.
Really simple, right? Then please don’t cry to me about how he doesn’t respect you and how you saw him making out with another girl at the bar. DUH! And please tell me why you’d want to hang out with a guy that slept with you that quickly. If he did it with you then he’s done it that way before and he’ll do it again. If you want to sleep around, be my guest but at least own it and say, “Look at me world! I’m a Samantha!” Yes, that was a Sex and the City reference, got a problem with that?
I am all about the "hit it and quit it" mentality. Leave your emotions at the door, have fun, move on. Typically, this is my style, and I have no prob with it.
ReplyDeleteBut, what if I start out with that mentality, then begin to realize I actually do want his respect? What if I come to find out I actually might like this guy maybe this one could be different (which seriously RARELY happens)?
I'm learning that even then it's hopeless(which, I suppose, is essentially what you are saying- uless I somehow become the exception to the rule, which hardly ever happens for people).
Even if what I want is actually really simple; I don't mind not hanging out everyday, I can come over once or twice a week and we can have a good time, and he can still have a social life outside of "us" (not much unlike what generally happens). The difference is I, all of a sudden, need to hear him say he likes me, and he thinks I am awesome, and beautiful. Just once in a while, here and there, if for nothing else than reassurance. If he doesn't say that, then I just assume all he wants is a piece of ass, and he'll even pay for my dinner to get it.
So then what do I do? Run because it's too late, once a piece of ass, always a piece of ass